The Flower that went to sleep when the sun went down

The flower that went to sleep when the sun went down

I am a lonely nomad travelling barefoot on the sands which change with every single impression made onto their face by the numerous entities playing with them. I am veiled and I am tired. The scorching sun and the endless sparkles of sand is what I can behold. The men ahead of me are conversing passionately. I happen to catch up bits of the conversation. It’s something about a dust storm. I begin to wonder what a dust storm is and I am still wondering why I am veiled.

At the horizon I see sand rising up and falling off like a giant oceanic wave. Oh I do know what an ocean is. The huge wall of sand comes with the great passion and surges and engulfs everything around. It engulfs me and devours me and stifles me. I welcome it as if I consensually allowed it to cover me up. I die and I wake up.

Its two AM in the night. Yeah technically it is two AM in the morning. But nonetheless it’s night. Darkness, its eldest daughter, plays around blissfully. It has a strange quality to comfort me. It is beauteous. It is eerie. It is silent. I wish I were Nyx^[1] or Ratri^[2], the goddesses of night and darkness in Greek and Hindu mythology respectively. I would have worn a black veil and used my wand to turn everything as inky as the onyx that I wear. I know it’s romantic but impassable for because I cannot exercise any authority over anything. I am powerless. Or perhaps I am thinking too much.

I wish to go back to sleep but ‘Hypnos’^[3] is no friend of mine and his brother ‘Morpheus’^[4] derives a sadistic pleasure in making me struggle even when I dream. I cannot dream now. I think. Why is it that I am a weakling? My vulnerability perhaps stems from my past, from my childhood.

I have identified myself with it and this has become my destiny. Fully aware of the fact that I am my own creator, I tend to live in the creation of this false identity. It does not let go of any chance in which it could possibly manifest and reinforce itself in my life again and again. I have often tried to cut off the last remnant of those melanoid^[5] memories. I dare not remember it. But I am a weakling. I allow myself to be haunted and tortured. It’s a giant whirlpool and I drown in it. I don’t wish to say what is happening but I am under a spell. And here I pour down those dreaded moments.

I am a child of five. The bright afternoon sun has kept me grounded within my house. I so want to go out and go up on a swing. My angel, my mother realizes my restlessness and cuddles me. I smile, she smiles. She proposes to read out a story to me. I prop myself up on the kitchen counter. She puts the vegetables to boil and meanwhile she starts to read out. It’s a lovely tale about a goblin, a water–rat, a tin soldier and a flower. ^[6] The goblin prevents the water soldier from meeting the flower because the flower has gone to sleep after sundown. I instantly detest the goblin. He could be more polite. I am sure the flower would not mind meeting the soldier if the soldier was on a really important mission. I contemplate what mummy would think of the impolite goblin. Suddenly, the sound of the cooker puts a stop to my mother’s narration. She smiles. I don’t. I know she would want me to have a bath. How much do I detest bathing! The water is so unfriendly. I don’t like the transparent colour it possesses.

Nevertheless, I get up. She runs the tap and fills the tub. She asks me to scrub myself while she runs on some errand. I immediately get out of the tub. Mummy is not around. I might have some fun. I get in the tub and open the tap. I stand there for a few moments and then decide to get out. My foot strikes against the corner and I slip. I fall into the pool. I am unable to get up. I don’t know what is happening to me. But it’s not good. My eyelids droop. I see something strange. It’s a Church. It’s the most beauteous piece of art I have ever seen. The huge crafted Oakwood doors beckon me but I do not wish to enter. I am afraid of its towering presence. It’s prodigious and monumental. Despite of its elegance there is something melancholic about it. I seek to enter inside but cannot. I look around and see a woman in white, veiled and full of tears. She resembles someone I know. Suddenly, she goes inside the building and shuts herself in. I try to follow her. I look through the glass panes. I see her crying for help. I wish to get in and hold her hands. I am pulled away. I gasp. I feel giddy. I hear faint voices. And comfort of all comforts, I am in my mother’s lap. She smiles. I don’t. I tell her I saw a woman die. I tell her the woman resembles her cousin. She gently pats my hair and says “It’s all fine my cherub, no one is dying. See, we all are here”. I clutch her hands and go to sleep. And the next thing I hear is that her cousin died.

I don’t want to say it all but the truth is that after that incident, the church started to frequent me more often, in my dreams, in my books, in my imagination. I forged a strange kind of a relationship with it. It was exquisite, ornate, monumental and towering. It was the most pious site I had ever seen. Today as I sit in my bed and think of it I remember its giant façade. It was a greatly chaste representation of the omniscient and omnipotent force of nature. I could revere the building more than the institution it housed. It was majestic. It made me feel how small I was. I now think it was something my imagination had built so that someday if I forget how big God is, all I have to do is to visit that chapter of my imagination, see the monument and remember the prodigiousness of the Supreme Power. But how much ever I revered it I dreaded it even more. I did not want to be a doomsayer. I curbed and tried to escape. I tried to sleep less and solve maths. I refrained from doing anything that would ask my imagination to run wild.

My grandmother had told my mother once that I shall grow up to be a clairvoyant, a soothsayer. But here I was turning out to be a doomsayer. However, these visions stopped as I started to read and study and grow. To the great relief of my mother I was behaving like a normal child. But did I ever become normal? I think not. Even if I wanted to the people around me made me realize that I were different. I wanted to be friends with everyone around me but I was alienated. I bore myself into books. I read and read and wrote and tried to escape from the very tag that I had been labelled with. I tried to evade, escape, runaway and yes I did manage it somehow. In all effectiveness I became an escapist. And that is how I considered myself to be weak. The church and its memories made me forgo my sleep, my calm and as soon as I found it overpowering me, I would do something else just to escape it. I often wonder if escape is the only route possible to overcome fears. My phobia stemmed from nothing but an imagination. But in the real sense it was not just the fear of the dream. It was a quest of my identity. Who would like to be labelled as doomsayer? Who would like to be an outcast? The emotional vulnerability, that this social status of mine put me in, was immense. All I wanted was comfort and company. All I wanted was to break free from the shackles of my portrayed image. All I wanted was acceptance. I wanted acceptance from others and more than that I wanted self-acceptance. I wanted to be happy about my reality. And yes the acceptance came, but years later.

I came across a book by Paulo Coelho^[7] called “The Witch of Portobello”. This book did cast off all my self-image of doomsayer. It made me feel so ordinary and small and comforted. I immediately identified with the protagonist Athena. She sees those visions of doom just as I used to. She turns to be a witch. She leaves no stone unturned in the search of the real truth. She wanders around in the desert and learns to meditate. She learns to live with those visions and accepts them as a gift. And with acceptance comes realization of a greater truth. The truth manifests it in the saying “what we are, we are”. Our identity depends on what we want it to be. It’s just like destiny, we can carve it or we can mar it. And this woman learns how to craft her life. She is the creator of her destiny. She is my superwoman. Interestingly, Coelho’s expression of feminism is pertinent to the context of destiny. He says there are four types of women, the Virgin, the Martyr, the Saint and the Witch. In one word I could describe each of them as the challenger, the sufferer, the lover and the maverick. Each one of them is responsible for their own creation.

So here I am, trying to create my own reality. I realize I am not the ‘Black Swan^[8]’. I am a woman. I am like the ordinary woman who is fighting her way out in this vicious world full of misogynists. I am student who still is learning the truth of life. I am a learner, a sufferer, a fighter.

Demosthenes^[9] once said “A man is his own easiest dupe, for what he wishes to be true he generally believes to be true. “ I suppose he talk about me. I begin to believe what I want to be. The powerhouse of our will is something that makes us what we are. If I submit to my weakness, I am vulnerable. I try to curb it, I am an escapist. I face it, I am a challenger. I now believe I want to be a maverick. I want to sleep as and when I want to. I am peaceful. As they say in Kung Fu Panda ^[10], I guess I will get my “inner peace” someday. For now I am the flower who goes to sleep when the sun goes down and my conscious mind is the rat who does not allow it to be woken up by any sinful dream. I am a nomad who is travelling alone but is crafting her own path.I still belong to the desert. Only difference is that I am not veiled anymore.

Footnotes:

[1] The Greek goddess of night

[2] The Hindu goddess of night

[3] The Greek god of sleep

[4] The Greek god of dreams

[5] Of or related to melanin, black pigmented

[6] Anderson’s Fairy Tales; Hans Christian Anderson

[7] Paulo Coelho (born August 24, 1947) is a Brazilian lyricist and novelist.

[8] The term black swan derives from a Latin expression—its oldest known reference comes from the poet Juvenal's characterization of something being "rara avis in terris nigroque simillima cygno" (6.165).[3] In English, this Latin phrase means "a rare bird in the lands, and very like a black swan."

[9] Demosthenes (384–322 BC) was a prominent Greek statesman and orator of ancient Athens. His orations constitute a significant expression of contemporary Athenian intellectual prowess and provide an insight into the politics and culture of ancient Greece during the 4th century BC.

[10] Kung Fu Panda is a 2008 American computer-animated action comedy film produced by DreamWorks Animation and distributed by Paramount Pictures. It was directed by John Wayne Stevenson and Mark Osborne and produced by Melissa Cobb.